What is tantric sex

 Sex is exciting, but it is not anything new. There have probably been people who have thought, talked, and eventually written about what sex means and how we can make it more meaningful for as long as humans have been having sex (which, for all we know, means from the beginning of humankind).

Tantric sex and teachings about tantric sexuality are among the earliest examples of a spiritual ideology of sexuality that is still practiced today.

What is tantra

Tantra, as per one interpretation, signifies "instruments for development." Tantra, similar to yoga, is right around 1500 years of age and started in India

It is a bunch of lessons and practices intended to help us feel more and become more mindful of our own energy and that of others.

Tantra’s method of achieving these goals is to explore sexual energy.

Tantric sex aims to give us a greater sense of depth and spaciousness in our sexuality. The idea is to enrich the whole sexual experience. The climax is not the ultimate goal of tantric sex.

How tantra sex feels like

Tantra differs in many ways from Western notions of sex. The Western conception of sex is like a story with a definite beginning (sexual arousal), middle (penetration), and end (sexual satisfaction) in the form of orgasm.

According to modern society, that’s how it should be, and if you don’t understand what’s going on, something is wrong. Sex without penetration is often considered “not right” or “just” foreplay.

Tantric sex is about the experience, not the orgasm. There’s no specific beginning, middle, or end to this practice. Most tantric sex practices involve slowing down and trying not to think about our outer body, climax, or anything else that’s not part of our current experience.

Having that the goal isn’t to climax at the end of the session, it’s a heightened awareness that leads to a better understanding of ourselves, which in turn leads to enlightenment. There’s no pressure to “get over the top”.

Tantric sex does not necessarily mean sex with a partner. It can be in the form of prolonged masturbation, with or without reaching an orgasm. The goal is to enjoy exceptional pleasure for a long time by stimulating your erogenous zones.

For women, external stimulators, such as magic wand vibrators, mini bullet sex toys, and clitoris suckers are great options, especially if used on their lowest intensity settings. These devices are great for massage on the external vulva, clitoris, or nipples.

By edging, many men can achieve tantric levels of sexual restraint for an explosive climax. Edging is the act of bringing yourself to the verge of orgasm but halting just before the ejaculation.

It’s quite intense when you do it a few times before you get that delayed orgasm; it’s much more intense when you increase the pleasure element to lead you to that delayed orgasm.

Men often choose automatic masturbators to achieve tantric pleasure by sending highly resonating sensations throughout their genitals.

Using a phone-controlled vibrator (while relaxing) in the pubic and testicular areas during solo practice can be very pleasurable and seductive. It’s also important for a man’s sexual health and stamina to massage the prostate daily.

Prostate massagers are easily accessible, available in vibrating and non-vibrating forms. With some practice, the procedure can be done using one’s fingers, it will just take some time and patience to get used to performing it.

Of course, teasing oneself and not necessarily reaching climax isn’t to say that orgasm is absent from Tantra; it’s just not the ultimate goal of being intimate with someone. Spiritual practice and positive sexual feelings are interconnected, with one leading to and enhancing the other.

Different people will have different ideas of what tantric sex “looks like”. Tantra is taught by a variety of teachers around the world, each with their own interpretation, inspired by the cultures they grew up with. Compared to the frenetic, orgasm-focused North American style, a key feature of tantric sex is the importance of breathing, slowing down sexual behavior, and experiencing maximum pleasure during the entire session.